I don’t know any situation that will not turn out better if there is loving. It takes a tremendous reserve of love to live on this planet. While we have often been led to believe that intellectual prowess, physical beauty or cleverness will do the trick, it’s loving that provides the most fulfillment and contentment, and loving that has the most lasting effect on you and on others.
Most of us are unaccustomed to responding with loving, because we’ve been taught to try to control others and our environment. We’ve forgotten that the natural way to be is loving and caring. When we have a disagreement with someone, we think we have to change them to our way of thinking. If we can get the other person to agree with us, we feel comfortable, and then when we feel comfortable we think that is loving.
However, loving can mean disagreeing with someone and, at the same time, allowing them the space to express their point of view. There’s really no right or wrong way; your way is the way that’s going to work the best for you. Many years ago I had a job that was several miles from where I lived, and I had quite a bit of traffic to contend with. Every day I tried a new way to beat the traffic. I experimented with many side streets, and through the process of trial and error I finally found the best way to go to work. Granted, along the way, I ran into dead ends, or more congested streets, but I kept at it until I found the way that worked the best for me. Once I found it, it worked for me for a long time. It was worth the effort to find the best way.
Life is also like that. There are a lot of dead ends and ways that don’t work. There may even be times when it looks as if someone is standing in your way. Let them be your guide and help you get out of your dilemma and find a better way.
Situations and experiences are given to people to allow them to grow, and things that are taken away from people will also allow them to grow. Loving will neutralize the emotions at either end of the scale.
Do lovingly and willingly whatever is demanded of you. Once you put yourself in a position of handling your responsibilities, these things can dissolve right in front of you.
Any situation will turn out better when there is loving. Where there is loving, there is cooperation, creativity, spontaneity, joy and a sense of fulfillment. We all have an intuitive sense of when we’re in our loving and when we’re not. Use your good senses to get yourself back to the loving. Do whatever it takes. Make it a priority in your life.
Each day provides a practice ground for strengthening and expanding your capacity to love. Challenge your capacity to love. Love, when not used, will grow as stagnant as the brackish water of the Dead Sea. Be courageous enough to be the first one to step forward with your loving.
You can’t lose love. As you give it, it comes back. Give only of the heart, do not give of possessive emotions, because that is what causes the hurt.
Be patient and loving with yourself. Through loving yourself, you can learn to love others. Through being patient with yourself, you can learn to be patient with others. When you give, give in love. Take care of yourself first. Make sure that you’re in good health, your bills are paid, your environment is comfortable and you have the things you need.
Your divine heritage is to experience your life as loving. Not anyone else’s loving -your own. Love is not a lofty ideal to strive for; it’s as natural as breathing in and breathing out. It’s unconditional in its simplicity. Keep in mind that we are in training to be loving to the highest degree, and keep looking for ways to let your loving heart shine.
Dr. John-Roger is a NY Times #1 best-selling author whose book, Loving Each Day for Peacemakers (ISBN# 1-893020-14-2) is filled with inspirational passages and practical tools for peacemaking in our daily lives. Dr. John-Roger has traveled extensively throughout the world supporting individual and world peace, and is the founder of the Movement of Spiritual Inner Awareness (www.msia.org). His new release, Momentum: Letting Love Lead, is filled with practical keys to experience greater loving in our lives, especially during times of challenge and change. Loving Each Day for Peacemakers and Momentum: Letting Love Lead are available at www.amazon.com and at www.mandevillepress.org.